{"id":3380,"date":"2026-09-24T12:30:49","date_gmt":"2026-09-24T12:30:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/riotpodcast.co\/beta\/?p=3380"},"modified":"2026-09-24T13:13:54","modified_gmt":"2026-09-24T13:13:54","slug":"how-do-you-know-if-youre-with-the-right-person-riot-podcast","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/riotpodcast.co\/beta\/how-do-you-know-if-youre-with-the-right-person-riot-podcast\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do You Know If You’re with the Right Person? | RIOT Podcast"},"content":{"rendered":"

How Do You Know If You’re with the Right Person?<\/strong><\/span> is the topic that will be discussed today on RIOT Podcast, a Christian Discipleship Podcast.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Are You Looking for Love, or Just Trying Not to Be Alone?<\/strong><\/p>\n

How do you know if you\u2019re with the right person?
\nIs it chemistry? Attraction? Shared interests? Compatibility? Feeling understood? Or simply finding someone who says they\u2019re a Christian?<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019re single, dating, divorced, considering remarriage, or already married, choosing who you build your life with is one of the biggest relationship decisions you\u2019ll ever make.<\/p>\n

But maybe we\u2019ve been asking the wrong question.<\/p>\n

In RIOT Podcast Episode 307, Pete Robertson, Bill Schoneman, and Bob Schoneman<\/strong> explore what the Bible teaches about relationships, dating, marriage, character, conflict, loneliness, and spiritual compatibility.<\/p>\n

Because sometimes the qualities that initially attract us to someone aren\u2019t the qualities that can sustain a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

Physical attraction can cause us to overlook character.<\/p>\n

Loneliness can make attention feel like love.<\/p>\n

Chemistry can make us ignore warning signs.<\/p>\n

And sometimes we fall in love not with who someone actually is, but with who we hope they\u2019ll eventually become.<\/p>\n

So how do we discern wisely?<\/p>\n

Scripture gives us a much deeper framework than simply \u201cfollow your heart.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Proverbs 4:23<\/strong> tells us: \u201cKeep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Before asking whether someone is the right person, maybe we should ask: What has been shaping my heart and teaching me what to desire?<\/strong><\/p>\n

In this episode, we discuss:
\n\u2022 How to know if you\u2019re with the right person
\n\u2022 What Christians should look for in a relationship
\n\u2022 Attraction vs. character
\n\u2022 Why chemistry alone cannot sustain a relationship
\n\u2022 How loneliness can affect relationship decisions
\n\u2022 What it really means to be equally yoked
\n\u2022 Why simply calling yourself a Christian isn\u2019t the same as walking with Jesus
\n\u2022 Red flags revealed through conflict
\n\u2022 Why you shouldn\u2019t date someone\u2019s potential
\n\u2022 The danger of believing you can change another person
\n\u2022 Dating and relationships after divorce
\n\u2022 Why waiting can sometimes be wiser than forcing a relationship
\n\u2022 What to do when marriage becomes difficult
\n\u2022 How pride, control, bitterness, and unforgiveness affect relationships
\n\u2022 Why your spouse cannot become your source of identity or security
\n\u2022 How abiding in Jesus changes the way we choose, love, forgive, and handle conflict<\/p>\n

One of the biggest relationship mistakes we can make is expecting another human being to give us what only Jesus can provide.<\/p>\n

\u201cMake me happy.\u201d
\n\u201cMake me feel secure.\u201d
\n\u201cMake me feel valuable.\u201d
\n\u201cNever disappoint me.\u201d
\n\u201cAlways understand me.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

No person can carry that weight.<\/p>\n

When our identity and security come from Jesus, we can begin loving another person without requiring them to become our savior.<\/p>\n

So maybe the question isn\u2019t only: \u201cAm I with the right person?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe we also need to ask: \u201cAm I becoming the right kind of person?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

And even deeper: \u201cWho or what is discipling the way I think about relationships?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re considering a relationship, look beyond chemistry. Look at the character. Look at fruit. Look at the direction of their life.<\/p>\n

And turn the mirror around. What is the direction?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re already married, ordinary conflict doesn\u2019t automatically mean you married the wrong person. Instead of spending all your energy trying to change your spouse, perhaps another question is worth asking: \u201cJesus, who are You calling me to become in this marriage?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

The goal isn\u2019t finding a flawless person.<\/p>\n

There isn\u2019t one.<\/p>\n

The goal is learning to walk closely with Jesus and allowing Him to transform the way we choose, love, forgive, handle conflict, and see the person in front of us.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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\r\n
\r\nAre You Looking for Love, or Just Trying Not to Be Alone?<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nHow do you know if you\u2019re with the right person?
\r\n
\r\nIs it chemistry? Attraction? Shared interests? Compatibility? Feeling understood? Or simply finding someone who says they\u2019re a Christian?
\r\n
\r\nWhether you\u2019re single, dating, divorced, considering remarriage, or already married, choosing who you build your life with is one of the biggest relationship decisions you\u2019ll ever make.
\r\n
\r\nBut maybe we\u2019ve been asking the wrong question.
\r\n
\r\nIn RIOT Podcast Episode 307, Pete Robertson, Bill Schoneman, and Bob Schoneman<\/strong> explore what the Bible teaches about relationships, dating, marriage, character, conflict, loneliness, and spiritual compatibility.
\r\n
\r\nBecause sometimes the qualities that initially attract us to someone aren\u2019t the qualities that can sustain a healthy relationship.
\r\n
\r\nPhysical attraction can cause us to overlook character.
\r\n
\r\nLoneliness can make attention feel like love.
\r\n
\r\nChemistry can make us ignore warning signs.
\r\n
\r\nAnd sometimes we fall in love not with who someone actually is, but with who we hope they\u2019ll eventually become.
\r\n
\r\nSo how do we discern wisely?
\r\n
\r\nScripture gives us a much deeper framework than simply \u201cfollow your heart.\u201d<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nProverbs 4:23<\/strong> tells us: \u201cKeep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.\u201d<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nBefore asking whether someone is the right person, maybe we should ask: What has been shaping my heart and teaching me what to desire?<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nIn this episode, we discuss:
\r\n\u2022 How to know if you\u2019re with the right person
\r\n\u2022 What Christians should look for in a relationship
\r\n\u2022 Attraction vs. character
\r\n\u2022 Why chemistry alone cannot sustain a relationship
\r\n\u2022 How loneliness can affect relationship decisions
\r\n\u2022 What it really means to be equally yoked
\r\n\u2022 Why simply calling yourself a Christian isn\u2019t the same as walking with Jesus
\r\n\u2022 Red flags revealed through conflict
\r\n\u2022 Why you shouldn\u2019t date someone\u2019s potential
\r\n\u2022 The danger of believing you can change another person
\r\n\u2022 Dating and relationships after divorce
\r\n\u2022 Why waiting can sometimes be wiser than forcing a relationship
\r\n\u2022 What to do when marriage becomes difficult
\r\n\u2022 How pride, control, bitterness, and unforgiveness affect relationships
\r\n\u2022 Why your spouse cannot become your source of identity or security
\r\n\u2022 How abiding in Jesus changes the way we choose, love, forgive, and handle conflict
\r\n
\r\nOne of the biggest relationship mistakes we can make is expecting another human being to give us what only Jesus can provide.
\r\n
\r\n\u201cMake me happy.\u201d
\r\n\u201cMake me feel secure.\u201d
\r\n\u201cMake me feel valuable.\u201d
\r\n\u201cNever disappoint me.\u201d
\r\n\u201cAlways understand me.\u201d<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nNo person can carry that weight.
\r\n
\r\nWhen our identity and security come from Jesus, we can begin loving another person without requiring them to become our savior.
\r\n
\r\nSo maybe the question isn\u2019t only: \u201cAm I with the right person?\u201d<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nMaybe we also need to ask: \u201cAm I becoming the right kind of person?\u201d<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nAnd even deeper: \u201cWho or what is discipling the way I think about relationships?\u201d<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nIf you\u2019re considering a relationship, look beyond chemistry. Look at the character. Look at fruit. Look at the direction of their life.
\r\n
\r\nAnd turn the mirror around. What is the direction?
\r\n
\r\nIf you\u2019re already married, ordinary conflict doesn\u2019t automatically mean you married the wrong person. Instead of spending all your energy trying to change your spouse, perhaps another question is worth asking: \u201cJesus, who are You calling me to become in this marriage?\u201d<\/strong>
\r\n
\r\nThe goal isn\u2019t finding a flawless person.
\r\n
\r\nThere isn\u2019t one.
\r\n
\r\nThe goal is learning to walk closely with Jesus and allowing Him to transform the way we choose, love, forgive, handle conflict, and see the person in front of us.<\/strong>
\r\n","content":"

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